How to Approach Others in the Swinging Lifestyle: Tips for Making Connections with Respect and Confidence

 

 

 

                       Rules and FAQ

 

​Attention! All guests must read and agree to abide by all of these  rules without exception. Anyone "Not"

following these rules will be asked to leave the premises.

 

1. The location must never be given out. We are the best kept secret in this area and we want to keep it that way.....Remember this is a private member’s social group, but we greatly appreciate you telling your friends about the Blue Moon Social. You, and anyone you refer to us must attend a one time "Orientation Get Together" Once a member, you must then RSVP to all up coming events and be on that nights events list to attend.   Doors open at 9:pm and Close at 10:15  Call if you are running late....

Special events, doors open at 8pm.

2. We reserve the right to refuse entry to anyone. Blue Moon Social is a private member's social group that caters to open-minded guests.  You must be 21 years old in order to attend our functions and be willing to prove it.

 

3. No means no. No one must ever give unwanted attention to another guest. Men must treat ladies with the highest respect, courtesy, and must defer politely to their wishes. There is a Touch-And-Go Policy in place at all times. If you touch another guest in an unwanted manner you will be asked to leave.

 

4. No photographs or video/audio recordings of any kind can be made at the Blue Moon Social. Be discreet and respect the privacy of others. We reserve the right to inspect any electronic equipment (camera phones included) if there is any indication that you have used the equipment to take pictures or make recordings then you will be asked to leave.

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Exception! There will be an on site professional photographer, that will be taking Professional photos at no cost to you in one of our private rooms. Any photos taken remains with you only. None of these photos stay in house. This is one of our ways of saying thanks for becoming "Blue Mooners"

 

5. No Drugs, Prostitution, Firearms or Knives will be tolerated at the Blue Moon Social or on our premises. Anyone found breaking these rules will be PERMANENTLY excluded from future parties. We have a ZERO TOLERANCE for anyone who's willing to jeopardize themselves and everyone around them.  All bags are subject to search. Please bring all items needed upon arrival. Making trips in and out to return to your vehicle is discouraged.  

 

6. Smoking is allowed in designated areas only. This is for your safety as well as ours.

 

7. Proper attire required and enforced. Party theme costumes are encourage but we reserve the right to refuse entry to anyone not dressed accordingly. Remember to dress to impress. No dirty sneakers, dirty work boots, ball caps, ragged blue jeans, bib overalls, overly baggy clothing or gang related articles.

 

8. Bring your own bottle (B.Y.O.B.) set ups are provided as well as ice to keep the party hopping..  You are also welcome to bring your own coolers, but please to take them home with you. Remember, we do not sell any type of alcocol.

 

9. Have a designator driver and Don't drink to excess and know your limits. Also, don"t arrive intoxicated...No one wants to be around unruly drunks. If we observe that you have had too much to drink, we will ask you to restrict your drinking to soft drinks or coffee. Your continued consumption of alcoholic beverages will result in us asking you to leave the premises for the evening. Taxi cabs, Lyft and Uber ride phone numbers are available for you.

 

10. Outside areas are considered "Quiet Zones' at all times. Normal conversation is permited but anyone found talking outloud, screaming or shouting out to anyone, will get just one warning.....soundes travels in the night.

 

11. No food or drinks are allowed in the social rooms........accidents do happen and must be avoided at all times.

 

12. Before attending our events  PLEASE " Shit, Shower and Shave" for obvious reasons, plus reframe from using to much or over powering cologne or perfume.

 

13. Last but not least...........       Obey the posted Speed Limit Signs Coming and Going                                                                   

 

               FAQ

Q. What is your address?
A. We are one of the best kept secrets in the Albuquerque, Rio Rancho & Santa Fe area, which our members appreciate. As soon as you register for Orientation you will receive an email with our address & directions to our beautiful party house.

Q. I am already a member of another social group; do I have to attend orientation?
A. We appreciate you exploring Blue Moon Social, but just like you, we are unique. Regardless of your experience in the Lifestyle, Orientation & Tour is required for every guest, new member and any Blue Moon member who has not attended our group within the past calendar year. We delight in having an open dialogue during the Tour and find many people coming to Blue Moon make connections with people they meet during the Tour.

Q. I am a male and don’t have a female partner, can I still join?
A. Blue Moon Social is geared towards couples and single females, we do not discriminate based on gender. Only on certain events we allow singles, we strive to keep our single female/male ratio equal at every party. You are welcome to attend solo but you first must be sponored in and then RSVP to be placed on a waiting list. We will then telephone you the day of the party to let you know if the couple and single female/male ratio has been reached so you may attend that party. You are welcome to attend any party with a female sponsor or companion. Special Events Only, so check our calendar for those events.

Q. Do I have to use my legal name?
A. Yes & No. When ask to read our Privacy Agreement and/or signing up for Orientation, we will ask to see proper I.D. which is not kept on file. Once you become a member, you will be issued a private identification number that is only unique to you in order to check in for furture events......"Do not give this number out". You can use whatever "social group" name you like once you are in the door & we keep your identity completely confidential.

Q. How does Orientation work?
A. You will need to arrive for Orientation at 8:30pm on certain evenings to be greeted by our friendly host for Orientation. Enjoy the relaxing atmosphere, appetizers and non-alcoholic beverages while you go over the Blue Moon Privacy Agreement and rules until the tour starts.

 

Please note:

If you have received an invitation from us, then you have been cleared to attend in good standings. Just fill out the contact form to be put on our list and to recvieve party updates and directions to our  Events.

Our tours last approximately 10 to 20 minutes during which we will tell you about the creation of our place, our rules, talk about the lifestyle, give you a full tour of our Social  House and then close with a Q&A session.

After the tour, you are then welcome to join our Lifestyle as a BlueMoon Card carrying member.

All parties are supported by " Donations" that goes only to the DJ, Buffet food Caterers and miscellaneous. You will enjoy a nice hot buffet style dinner, complimentary setup bar, entertainment for the night and full use of the Blue Moon Social House. During overnight parties a midnight snack and hot breakfast served in the morning. Welcome Home!

Q. What do people wear/Is everyone naked?
A. We encourage our members to wear whatever they are most comfortable in. Most men wear business casual or dress to the theme on Saturdays and the Ladies wear everything from business attire to cocktail dresses, lingerie or full on costumes! Bottom line, wear what you are comfortable in or after the gates close at 10:15, nothing at all!  Keep in mind to "Dress to Impress" upon arrival.

Q. Is there a dress code in the play area?
A. Yes and No.... If you are interested in going to play (or observe) we suggest you bring lingerie, PJ's or any bedroom attire you are most comfortable in wearing. There are some who simply wear underwear, a robe or towel... just remember, this is a fem-centric club and it's all about YOUR comfort. 

Q. Do people wear swim suits in the hot tubs
A. Our hot tubs are clothing optional. If you are more comfortable in a swim suit, you are welcome to do so. Prior to enjoying the hot tubs, please be sure to take a cleansing shower & remove any make-up or lotions. Our Hot Tubs is for socializing only........No Hanky Panky!

Q. Should I bring anything?
A. By all means bring anything that will make you comfortable, including beach towels. We do have towel for those using the hot tub, pool or play area. We have plenty of wash towels, shower gel & mouthwash available complimentary. We suggest bringing personal towels or bedroom attire to wear in the play areas, personal lubricant, a change of clothes and any personal toiletries you would like to freshen up. Protection "Condoms" may or may not be available, so bring your own to make sure fun and saftey is had by all.

Q. Where can I keep my personal items?
A. We do have a secure room that you can place personal items.

Q. What can we expect our first night?
A. You can expect a friendly, helpful staff, good food, fun themed entertainment and a  DJ. Every party is different, some nights are relaxed; with lot’s of people talking and making connections and some are high energy with a packed dance floor. If you have an atmosphere you are more comfortable socializing in, just talk to us so we can sugggest the type of party you may enjoy best.  We find couples and singles who report the most successful first nights come with good communication with their partner, no expectations and a willingness to talk to new people.

Q. About how many people are at a party?
A. Being a new socisl group, as membership grows, so will the parties....Keep in mind that these are projected numbers for our future......Anyway, it’s exciting that every party is different, offering you a fun variety to fit your mood. Since we are new.....let’s talk about the biggest parties of the year! Halloween, New Years, Mardi Gras and Memorial Day are the weekends you can expect us to be at capacity......70 to 120 people. Our Glow-Nights & more popular themes like, Valentine’s Day, Cinco de Mayo, Midsummers, Pirates Night, Toga, Leather & Lace Night will be a roaring crowd at 50-100! The first or second Sat of every month is Members and Newbies which attracks around 30 to 60 people. As for "Wet T Shirt" and "Sexy Ass" contest nites........Hit and Miss depending on how many contestants sign up.

If you have an atmosphere you are more comfortable socializing in, just talk to us so that we can help you choose the party that would best suits you.

Q. Will we be pressured into playing our first night?
A. Blue Moon is many things to many people. Within our diverse community, we see to it that everyone attending our social group regularly are never presured in anyway. No means No and we have a Touch and go policy in place in case anybody touches anyone without being ask. The social freedoms we offer and enjoy is always monitored by everyone including our volunteer staff for safety reasons.. Your comfort and safety is our number one priority, which includes setting the pace at which you and your partner want to explore and with whom. Couples should make a joint decision without pressure or persuasion. Any suggestions of coercion will not be tolerated.

Q. Is it okay to bring toys to enhance playing?
A. Absolutely. Blue Moon is a place to play and explore.

Q. Are cell phones allowed on the premises?
A. The privacy of our members is paramount. It is best to leave your cell phone in your locker or kept on your person for those of you who need to be in touch with baby sitters.......etc. To ease anxiety of Cell phones use, please limit thier use to the locker area or outside of building,

Q. Can I take pictures?
A. Videotaping, photographs and voice recordings are strictly prohibited to ensure the privacy of our members. Members may take photos at designated areas and with a staff member present On occasion we will hire a professional photographers to take posed photos of you and your date and may have a staff member taking photos of specific events. When taking photos, we will always have a staff member present, announce there is a camera and photos are being taken and make sure no one is in the photo that wishes to remain anonymous. PLEASE NOTE: Cell phones, cameras or any electronic device are not allowed to be used in the play rooms.

Q. Can I bring my own alcohol?
A. Yes.....BYOB We do not supply or sell any alcohol of any kind.

Q. What is the drug use policy?
A. Street Drugs are not allowed on property. Although we believe strongly in personal freedom, we do not allow street drugs on the premises.

Q. Is there security?
A. We are proud to report that we seldom have issues, as every member is on our security detail and empowered to report disturbances to our trained volunteer staff. In addition, we always have a Host or Hostess on the premises, as well as volunteer staff to help monitor play areas and the building in general. If an issue does arise, we have health & safety protocol in place to handle every issue swiftly & discreetly.

Q. That person made me feel uncomfortable, what should I do?
A. No one, male or female, has the right to make you feel uncomfortable for any reason. Please talk to a staff member they will listen and work with you to create a course of action depending on the severity of the issue.

Q. He/she touched me without permission, who do I talk to?
A. We do not tolerate intimate touching without clear consent. Intimate touching is defined as any contact with an area that would be covered by a standard bathing suit. Intimate touching can also include: hugging, groping, kissing or a touch that makes you uncomfortable. Unless you have a standing agreement with someone, it is expected that they always ask before touching, even playfully.

If someone, male or female, has touched you without permission, please immediately talk to a staff member they will listen and work with you to create a course of action depending on the severity of the issue.

Q. What if I get into an argument with my partner?
A. Good communication prior to attending is crucial. Your partner, relationship and any agreements you made as a couple is your top priority for a successful night at Blue Moon. Even with all of that in place, emotions cans still run high. If you find yourself getting upset, talk to a friend, volunteer or staff member before it escalates as fighting will result in being removed from the premises and possibly lead to suspension. We have a zero tolerance policy for violence of any kind, including destruction of property, screaming and yelling.

Q. What happens if someone makes a complaint about me or my partner?
A. We take every complaint seriously and do our best to make sure each incident is handled swiftly and discreetly for all involved by our staff. Depending on what occurred, our staff will first have a dialogue with you to find out if you were aware of the problem.

 

Q. Are there behaviors that will result in automatic suspension?
A. Yes. We have a zero tolerance policy for violation of the Privacy Agreement, weapons, solicitation, illegal street drugs, destruction of property, coercion, threats or violence of any kind.

Q. Your doors closes at 10:15 pm, how do I get out?

A. Call a staff member. Once out, there is no coming back in.

 If you are arriving after 10:15pm just contact the us from your cell phone. You must be a member to gain admission. No access in after 10:15pm. You are welcome to leave at any time. Once out, there is no coming back in

Q. Do you have any private sleeping areas?
A. Yes and No. Please call us for details.

Q. Can I park my RV?

A. Yes......we have 2 spots available.

Q. Are there any hotels and Casinos nearby?
A. Several. The closes is the  Santa Ana Star and the Sandia Resort Casino and hotel     just several min. away .

Q. I love this place! What can I do to help/be here more?
A. We LOVE our volunteers! They make it possible for us to keep our party donations reasonable and our place running smoothly. If you would like to join the League of the Loved, drop your name and contact information in our suggestion box and we will get back with you to see where we can use you.

Q. How can I find out about what is happening at Blue Moon?
A. Parties are just the beginning! We are an Adult Social group offering many additional activities and relationship enjoyment events. We will post all up and coming events such as our Sleazy Riders (our motorcycle club) bike runs, Camping trips, "what happens in the woods stay in the woods" Also  off premess RV, Trailer, Popup Camping BBQ parties. Anyone with other ideas of party events, just let us know so we can help organize them as well.

Q. I have this great idea/band/DJ, do you take suggestions?
A. Yes Please! We want to know what you want. We at Blue Moon have a list of party ideas, themes, and performers you want to see throughout the year. Just drop them in our suggestion box...... you can do it anonymously or include your contact information if you’d like to be kept in the loop.

Q. I couldn’t make it to the party, what happens?
A. Things happen so call us at Blue Moon Phone  Depending on the reason for you missing out on all our fun, we will make a note on your membership and make a judgment call for future parties.

Q. I lost something. Do you have a Lost & Found?
A. Our staff managed lost & found does a great job of recovering lost items. Just give us a call and we will check to see if your item was turned in or found by housekeeping. We hold lost items for 30 days after every party. Just call the front desk to let us know and we can have your item waiting for you at the front desk upon your next arrival.

                                                                Please Read

It's sometimes difficult for someone new to the lifestyle to understand all the in's and out's.   It all comes down to respect.  Don't assume because we're all in the lifestyle we're all ready to fool around  with you!  Relate to each other with understanding, thoughtfulness, and common courtesy; just as you wish to be treated. One of our most important rules is WHAT HAPPENS AT OUR PARTIES STAY AT THE PARTY!  If you have a good time then tell others so they may wish to become members.  If you don't have a good time please tell us why!  We cannot fix a problem if we're unaware one exist.  We understand some couples don't like house parties and that's OK!  Expectations No expectations, No disappointments. A party is only as fun as it's attendees so mingle and have some fun.  Be Respectful  People are interested in you, so relax and be yourself. However, this does not mean you can be disrespectful to others.  If you are disrespectful, then you'll be asked to leave immediately and your membership suspended or revoked.  Be Courteous  We all wish to be treated with courtesy, kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding and sensitivity.  In essence, courtesy is treating people the way we ourselves wish to be treated. Be Friendly  Leave the drama at the door.  Whether or not you are personally interested in swinging with someone, be polite. You never know, you may share many other interests or you may meet that person again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and do wish to share time.  Attitude Attitude - is everything.  If you are not open-minded enough to"possibly"  see your spouse with someone else then our parties are not for you.  Our parties are always a no pressure atmosphere.  Take it easy and have fun - enjoy yourself.  Remember, no means no (the first time).  Make the most of it and keep it fun, you will enjoy yourself more!  Keep in mind, if you cause a scene and others become uncomfortable, you wil then be asked to leave and your membership suspended for 30 days or canceled. Respond to all invitations  RSVP means please reply to the invitation. It does NOT mean reply only if you plan to attend. The most frustrating part of hosting a party is trying to read your silence.   If you RSVP and then don't show without canceling your membership could be suspended. Respect Others  Not everyone is comfortable in all situations.  Just be aware of signs that your partner, as well as others, are relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping them over the rough spots. Don't be pushy  If you are interested in playing with someone, let them know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say "No, thank you," do not ask WHY.  Everyone has the right to say "NO"  to anyone, without explanation.  Only do what is right for YOU  Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.

 

 

.The following is an article from LifeStyle Magazine,
reproduced with permission for those that are new to the 'LifeStyle' and would like some additional information.
 

 

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